Couples Counseling

  We spend 70 percent of our lives communicating and almost half of that listening. So why aren’t we better at it?It may be because we can hear between five and 10 times as fast as someone else talks. That leaves a lot of extra brain capacity that takes our attention [...]

Going into couples therapy is not an easy decision for most people. It requires you and your partner to take a number of difficult steps. First you must admit to yourself that there’s something wrong with your relationship and you don’t seem to be able to fix it on your own. [...]

There is a bottom line in every relationship, perhaps several bottom lines. A “we won’t go there” limitation is part of the emotional contract partners make with one another. But what happens when you do “go there”? In the heady beginning of a relationship you may be convinced that it will [...]

It’s a shock to learn that the person you trust most in the world has lied, cheated, sneaked, or broken faith with you in some way. You had an agreement after all, whether it was stated aloud or merely understood between you: you would each look out for the other, protect [...]

Why do pre-marital work?You and your partner have reached a wonderful point in your relationship. You’ve spent amazing moments learning about each other and more amazing moments embracing the realization that you want to spend your lives together. Commitment is just around the corner and you couldn’t be happier about it.So, [...]

If coming home is never the best part of your day, if your spouse’s number is no longer the most frequently called on your phone, if the TV or computer is the most interesting thing in your bedroom, if you hesitate to have a conversation with your partner because you already [...]

You and your partner did not begin your lives when you met. You have both lived many years with other important people in your lives, learning from your individual experiences and shaping your ability to create strong bonds as an adult. And, of course, you both have been in love at [...]

It was great in the beginning. You were fascinated by one another, thrilled by each new discovery, mesmerized by what each of you dared to share. You were turned inward toward each other, even when separated for a few hours or days. What is she doing right this minute? And you [...]

It’s a romantic notion: “the two will become one flesh.” It’s certainly our inclination in the heady days of new love. Oh, we want to spend every moment together. Oh, what pleasure to trip through life hand-in-hand. Where do you want to go, honey? Wherever YOU want to go, of [...]

Marriage is all about sharing life events – the giddy joy of growing attraction, financial struggle or burgeoning wealth, sleepless nights with a sick child, pride in that child’s firsts, and the “we” of everything from “we live here” to “we celebrate this way” and “Remember when we went on that [...]